From Within

Often one of the hardest things for a receiver of abuse/neglect to accept, so I have been told, is that the receiver is not the reason for, did not bring on nor deserved the acts of abuse/neglect.  The receiver rehearses every moment of the acts, constantly analyzing what he/she could have done to prevent it and what he/she can do to avoid it next time.  Would it be safe to say this is true for all forms of abuse/neglect–physical, mental, emotional, verbal  …?  This may be particularly true if the receiver is a child, a little person with no control in life who has yet to understand that the source of the abuse/neglect stems from within the one who abuses/neglects.  Outliving the event(s) of abuse/neglect is the impact that the abuse/neglect has and the life-long scars.  Understanding the true nature of the abuse does not diminish the pain and the loss but it does offer the first steps of hope, healing and freedom.

Often one of the hardest things for people to accept, so I would imagine, is that the receiver of Love is not the reason he/she has received the gift of Love, that he/she did nothing to earn the gift and that perhaps he/she feels unworthy of the gift.  The receiver rehearses every moment, constantly analyzing what he/she can do to gain Love and afraid of losing Love.  Would it be safe to say this is true for all expressions of Love–physical, mental, emotional, verbal …?  This may be particularly true if the receiver is an adult, a former little person with no control in life and with no exposure to affection who has yet to understand that the source of Love comes from within the giver of Love.  Outliving the event(s) of love is the impact that the love has and the life-long strength it builds.  Understanding the true nature of the Love does not diminish life’s pains and losses but it does offer the first steps of hope, healing and freedom.

The legacy that a person leaves behind is that of being a broke person or a person of brokeness.  A person can only give what he/she has in his/her possession.  A person of addiction, anger, control, insecurity, intimidation, manipulation, pride, rejection, vindictiveness … will pass on what he/she possesses.  A person of faith, hope and Love will do likewise.

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2 thoughts on “From Within

  1. The miraculous next step is that healing is available to all those who want it. Most people are broken in one form or another; some more than others. But there is healing available for all who want it. It’s simple … but totally not easy.

    Thanks for a great reminder of where we all come from and what we all really deserve.

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    • We don’t always ask for what we get and sometimes we don’t get what we do ask for. Either way, often it has more to do with the giver/withholder than with us. Indeed, healing is always an option.

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