She is three years old. She is transparent in everything she does–in voice, in facial expression and in action. What she feels, she expresses–loudly, unguardedly and with gusto. What she thinks blurts out unfiltered. Already her innocence is waning if ever so slowly, although she truly does not comprehend some of the repercussions of her free expressions. She hides only when she feels condemned or ashamed or insecure.
They are 48 years old. As adults, they freely express their sexuality one with another. Nudity is not blinked at. The door may or not be closed when taking care of personal needs. There is a certain familiarity between them, though not always a transparency. Fears are hidden through avoidance. Self-revelation becomes obscured in the art of evasiveness. Woundedness is masked by anger and anger is diverted into safer avenues of expression. Or it could be that transparency between the two adults creates a bond, a loyalty built on trust, vulnerability, attachment, reciprocal affection and experience.
Transparency in faith is not limited to gender and may not deepened with age. Worship may be superficial, as in the 48-year-old couple above as described initially. There is a certain familiarity with routine and business as usual, though not always a transparency. Fears are hidden through avoidance. Self-revelation becomes obscured in the art of denial. Woundedness is masked by anger and anger is diverted into alternate avenues of passion. Or it could be that transparency in faith is a fact of life as in the three-year-old from the opening paragraph. It is a bond formed out of trust, vulnerability, attachment, affection and experience.
Transparency is quite an element in the life of us all. It factors into all our relationships. It comes from the heart and cannot be deceptively reproduced. The depth and strength of our relationships have a way of being established, or limited, by our transparency.