Wounded, Not Broken

Children of divorce are wounded, not broken. Their spirit may be. Love can feel like a dirty four-letter-word. Trust does not come quickly nor easily and is hard to win back. Betrayal and disappointment replace innocence and hope.

Children of divorce are wounded, not broken. Love them well, love them abundantly, love them fiercely. Children who are wounded, who do not heal, grow up to be adults bitter, brittle and pockmarked with insecurity.

Children of divorce are wounded, not broken.  Their world implodes and by their thinking, it’s all their fault.  They are responsible for making the parent leave.  They are responsible for the pain and anger of the one who stayed.  Fear and confusion in a complicated world are overly simplified in their black-and-white world.

Children of divorce are wounded, not broken.  The wounds are internal, the blows were external and both aspects will need to be understood, expressed and touched in order to be healed.  Love will need to be a gift, not a threat.  Trust will again be natural and not tenuous.  Temerity, shame and blame will be the mantle over them no longer when Love embraces them into wholeness and joy.

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3 thoughts on “Wounded, Not Broken

  1. I think as a child I wasn’t to affecte3d by my parents separating. However I was being raised as a Catholic and divorce was a no no. So that affected me and I prayed everynight that they’d get backi together.

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